Monday, May 31, 2010

#87...Update from Jiejah

As ma work pile up, i tend to ignore it..for a while as my mind is not in the office. I guess i still in Holiday Mood. I just wanna run and go home and sleep ZZzzzzzz....sure damai. Back to update, almost a week i did'nt update anything at this blog. Huhuhuhu! Kinda BZ....

- Settle pile and ton's of email
- Send all report's esp related with Porsche
- Travel by next month to Sg
- Imigresen & Pasport issue -___-**
- Reunion with ma Dip Peep's
- Outing with Hanin's Famile
- Unofficial Photographer for Kyra on the Eve of her B'day Party
- Cousin wedding + Kyra's Bday ;))
- Supposed went to see Yuna but last minute cancel. -__-** (Maybe next time)

This week i'm not sure what's the plan but hope that it stress free weekend ;P
Will update will more delicious and cheekilious picture soon....Have a good Monday ahead.

Monday, May 24, 2010

#86... From Uncle Krueger to the LOVE of Juliet

Two days filled with many activities that i like to do with ma Loves ones. Saturdays me and ma mon petite ami went out for an outing from movie to taking picture. Thank you again for teaching me, sorry me not the techno gadget gurl. Huhuhuh! Herm..the thing that i wanna share is the movie that i watch on last weekend. Manage to squeeze our time to watch movie, even me n him kinda bz lately.

Enough of that,
I'm not a good date or a good company if come to horror movie. Trust me i will scream on top of ma vocal like nobody business.Poor me as well he really likes this type of genre so sometime i tend to close ma eye almost half of the movie.hehheeee! so that i get the nightmare at night's. Yes i have to admit that i did read this story before but did not finished it as i lost interest with the book of course. Haha! This time the effect it good the to bad the story line is kinda empty. Much diffrent compared to previous movie before this 2010 version.Hey! this ma honest opinion about this movie and will share the synopsis of this movie later.

Letter of Juliet
This movie i read on this magazine, sorry can remember which but the review make me impress of this movie. As we both on que to buy the tickets either the shrek or this movie. I suggest this movie to him and I'm really glad we choose this. Heheh! many thing that i like about the movie from the feeling of lost the person that we love, to childhood memory lane to the simple manners that we can imply in our daily life.
I vote 4 star for this movie, and this heartless, selfish fiancee takes the advantages in many ways. So Ladies, open yer eyes, huhuhuh! i didn't mean in a bad way but in other way to deal with the relationship and always listen to our heart.

So now I present the review of this two movies..taken from http://rogerebert.suntimes.com/.

*A Nightmare on Elm Street

Forget about the plot, the actors and the director. What you require to make a new "Nightmare on Elm Street" are these three off-the-shelf sound effects: 1. A sudden, loud clanging noise mixed with a musical chord. 2. Snicker-snack sounds, which Freddy Krueger's steel finger claws make every time they are seen. 3. A voice deepener, to drop Freddy's speaking voice to an ominous level.

On top of that, you need your sudden cuts, your lighting from below, your thump-thump-thumps and of course a dog that barks at something unseen in the night, so that your teenage heroine can go out on the lawn in bare feet and flimsy PJs and call "Rufus! Rufus! Here, boy!" You know in your bones that Rufus is now checking into Doggie Heaven.

Oh, and actors. Lots of Dead Teenagers, seen in the last moments of their lives, when they enjoy a farewell Moment of Deceptive Safety just before there's a sudden loud clanging noise and the snicker-snack claws disembowel them and Freddy rumbles, You have nothing to worry about. This won't hurt one … little ... bit.
The 2010 edition of "A Nightmare on Elm Street" is number 8 1/2 in the series. I arrive at that number not out of a desperate desire to be seeing the Fellini film instead, but because "Freddy vs. Jason" (2003) should in all fairness count for half a film on this list, and half a film on the "Friday the 13th" list.

It is sad to think of all those Dead Teenagers. They were played by ambitious, talented young actors, some of them now in their 40s, who survived grueling auditions for the honor of being slashed by Freddy. Some of them are now successful: Johnny Depp, for example. Robert Englund became famous playing Freddy, but where can that lead when you're always wearing a mask of makeup. Now Jackie Earle Haley plays the role. For what purpose? He might as well play Santa Claus.

It was 26 long years ago when Freddy first began to haunt the nightmares of the children of Elm Street in Springwood, Ohio. At least 137 victims have been claimed by Freddy in the years since then, but the shady little street is still lined with handsome homes, and hasn't been leveled, covered with ashes and sprinkled with holy water. The franchise was founded by Wes Craven, the Ray Kroc of horror, who made the excellent "Wes Craven's New Nightmare" (1994), about Freddy haunting the dreams of the makers of the "Nightmare" movies.

Freddy is not a good argument for a supernatural existence. He can live inside wallpaper, appear anywhere and has no need of physical existence, except, arguably, when he inflicts actual physical damage. Yet he's such a bore, always growling away with his deep-voiced hahahahaha. If a man leads an interesting life, he ought to be able to make good conversation, is what I say.

I stared at "A Nightmare on Elm Street" with weary resignation. The movie consists of a series of teenagers who are introduced, haunted by nightmares and then slashed to death by Freddy. So what? Are we supposed to be scared? Is the sudden clanging chord supposed to evoke a fearful Pavlovian response? For Rufus, maybe, but not for me. Here, boy.

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*Letter to Juliet

I know “Letters to Juliet” is a soppy melodrama, and I don’t mind in the least. I know the ending is preordained from the setup. I know the characters are broad and comforting stereotypes. In this case, I simply don’t care. Sometimes we have personal reasons for responding to a film.

“Letters to Juliet” is about Sophie (Amanda Seyfried), an American girl who visits Verona with the man she’s engaged to marry (Gael Garcia Bernal). He’s always leaving her behind to investigate wine and truffles for his New York restaurant. She visits the house allegedly inhabited by Shakespeare’s Juliet. Below the balcony there, lovelorn women for years have posted “letters to Juliet,” asking for advice.

Sophie finds a letter 50 years old, written by a young British girl about a Tuscan boy she met, fell in love with and allowed to fall out of her life. Sophie writes to the girl, the letter amazingly finds its way, and soon Claire (Vanessa Redgrave) and her grandson Charlie (Christopher Egan) arrive in Verona. So now, if we’re experienced moviegoers, we know what must happen by the end of the story.

All of this is wrapped up in unimaginably beautiful shots of the Italian countryside, the warmth of the friendship between Sophie and Claire, and visits to many of the men named Lorenzo Bartolini, which was the name of the boy Claire loved so long ago. A hard-hearted realist would suggest that Sophie help Claire check out the possible Lorenzo Bartolinis by use of the phone, but no. “Letters to Juliet” requires the three of them to visit the candidates in person, leading to a series of false leads and at last, of course, to the real Lorenzo Bartolini (Franco Nero).

As it happens, this story stirred memories of romantic memories in my own life. Once in a small hill town outside Rome, under a full moon, I stood before the balcony being used by Franco Zeffirelli for his great film “Romeo and Juliet” (1968), and heard Nino Rota hum his theme music to Zeffirelli. Some years later, I stood beneath the “Juliet’s Balcony” in Verona itself with a woman dear to my heart and saw the notes pinned to the wall.

And the very first movie set I ever visited, before I was yet a movie critic, was “Camelot” (1967). On that set I met and interviewed Vanessa Redgrave, who was not yet 30, and Franco Nero, who was 26. They played Guenevere and Lancelot. They fell in love on the set, married and had a child. Finally on New Year’s Eve 2006, they married. Even earlier, Franco walked Vanessa’s daughter Natasha Richardson down the aisle when she married Liam Neeson.

So you see, when Vanessa marries Franco 40 years after falling in love with him, and they are playing characters who meet after 50 years, and this all has to do with Juliet’s balcony — reader, what am I to do? I am helpless before such forces.

Vanessa Redgrave recently lost her sister Lynn. I met Lynn once on London. I went to her house for tea. This was not long after the success of “Georgy Girl.” My interview has been lost in the past, but I remember the feeling of the day, Lynn sitting cross-legged on the carpet beside to her coffee table, smoking and jolly, a famous actress friendly to an unknown kid her own age.

I have strayed far from the film. But I’ve told you what you need to know about it. I also want to observe that our response to every film depends on the person we bring to it. Pauline Kael said she went to a movie, and the movie happened, and she wrote about what changed within her after she saw it. This is quite valid. Sometimes, however, we go to a movie, and our lives have happened, and we write about what hasn’t changed.





P/s: Watch the letter for juliet ;)

#85...Interesting Facts about the Human Body

Scientists say the higher your I.Q. The more you dream.

The largest cell in the human body is the female egg and the smallest is the male sperm.

You use 200 muscles to take one step.

Your big toes have two bones each while the rest have three.

A pair of human feet contains 250,000 sweat glands.

A full bladder is roughly the size of a soft ball.

The acid in your stomach is strong enough to dissolve razor blades.

The human brain cell can hold 5 times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica.

It takes the food seven seconds to get from your mouth to your stomach.

The average human dream lasts 2-3 seconds.

Men without hair on their chests are more likely to get cirrhosis of the liver than men with hair.

At the moment of conception, you spent about half an hour as a single cell.

There are about one trillion bacteria on each of your feet.

Your body gives off enough heat in 30 minutes to bring half a gallon of water to a boil.

The enamel in your teeth is the hardest substance in your body.

Your teeth start growing 6 months before you are born.

When you are looking at someone you love, your pupils dilate, and they do the same when you are looking at someone you hate.

Your thumb is the same length of your nose.

As humans grow older, the lens in the eye grows thicker. This is why people who once had perfect vision often need glasses in their 40s.

The circulatory system of arteries, veins, and capillaries is about 60,000 miles long.

Every day the average person loses 60-100 strands of hair.

One human hair can support 3.5 ounces. That’s about the weight of two full size candy bars.

The surface area of a human lung is equal to a tennis court.

On any given day, sexual intercourse takes place 120 million times on earth.

One out of every 2,000 newborn infants has a tooth when they are born.

Most men have erections every hour to hour and a half during sleep.

After eating too much, your hearing is less sharp.

Even small noises cause the pupils of the eyes to dilate.

Everyone has a unique smell, except for identical twins.

By the age of 60, most people will have lost about half their taste buds.

Humans can make do longer without food than sleep.

A human head remains conscious for about 15 to 20 seconds after it is been decapitated.

The tooth is the only part of the human body that can’t repair itself.

Three hundred million cells die in the human body every minute.

Humans shed about 600,000 particles of skin every hour.

Human lips have a reddish color because of the great concentration of tiny capillaries just below the skin.

The colder the room you sleep in, the better the chances are that you’ll have a bad dream.

Your ears secrete more earwax when you are afraid than when you aren’t.

Humans are the only animals to produce emotional tears.

Friday, May 21, 2010

#84...Argue with An Idiot

#83... Expressing the word of LOVE

This is what happen if me really tired with what's going on with surrounding me now, currently now me at my work place but my heart and mind seem missing and out of action today. LOL! So me browse thru few pages and came across with this article. Do enjoy it as much that i did.. Till then Cheers!!!

Fun ways to say 'I Love You'

1. Guys in tight pants running across a football field may not be your thing, but taking part in his interests is important. Surprise him with tickets to a football game - and go with him.
2. If he hasn't been able to make the trek cross-country to his hometown since last Christmas, consider buying him a plane ticket home.
3. If you know your guy is working a long shift, have a nice warm dinner waiting when he gets home. We're not trying to get all 1950s housewife on you, but the effort will show him you empathize with his crazy schedule.
4. Pay attention to his cute, quirky habits. Is he always waking up thirsty in the middle of the night? Put a glass of water on his nightstand.
5. Leave him a sweet note in his briefcase or wallet. This is especially great if your significant other does a lot of business traveling.
6. Give him some time off and take up his chores for the day.
7. Before you drift to sleep, tell him something he did that day you thought was especially sweet.
8. Cut out newspaper or magazine articles you think he'd enjoy and set it aside for him.
9. Leave the house for a Friday evening and let him enjoy a night-in poker game with the guys. Before you skip out, make a platter of his favorite snack.
10. Fly his best friend in for a guys' weekend.
11. Secretly patch up the hole in his favorite pair of shorts and put them back in the drawer without saying a word.
12. Get his car washed.
13. Pack his favorite lunch for two and bring it to his office.
14. Ask him how his soccer game went or how his big presentation turned out - and pay attention.
15. Stock up on his toiletries if you see he's running low.
16. If you and your sweetie live in separate places, keep your fridge stocked with his favorite foods.
17. Wake up early on a weekday and make him breakfast, set the paper on the table and fill up his to-go coffee mug.
18. Take his dog on a walk or come over with a surprise treat for the pup.
19. Buy him the box set of his favorite childhood TV show.
20. Bake him a cake - just because - and write 'I love you' in frosting across the top.
21. If you're out of the house before him in the morning, turn on the heater so it's nice and warm when he gets up.
22. Draw him a hot, candlelit bath.
23. Set your computer's screen saver with a sweet message for him.
24. Send him a romantic greeting card via snail mail. Even if you live together.
25. Play hooky with him from work on a Wednesday and spend the entire time in bed watching movies. Turn off all phones.
26. Show respect to his family and their traditions - especially if you're from different cultural backgrounds.
27. Flirt like you just met.
28. Tell him your deepest, darkest, nerdiest secret.
29. Nurture his nerdy side. Buy him a Star Wars figurine; surprise him the collector's edition of Harry Potter.
30. Write him a love note in a secret code and give him the key to decipher the message.

#82...Top 40 Movies Filmed in Chicago


Everyone is a critic, particularly when it comes to movies, and nowhere is that more true than in Chicago—after all, a television show with two guys arguing about films started here more than three decades ago and went on to become part of the national Zeitgeist.

They classify a Chicago movie as one where at least part of the picture was actually shot in town. That definition regrettably leaves out a bundle of favorites—Scarface, The Front Page, His Girl Friday, and even Chicago—that were set in the city but filmed elsewhere, usually Hollywood or Toronto. In selecting  40, we sifted through hundreds of candidates—reeling back through our collective memories and hitting Netflix accounts—to choose those that they thought captured a piece of Chicago in some iconic, evocative, or magical way.

40. The Hunter (1980)
Steve McQueen’s last film is a sad mess, but the spectacular chase scene, including a car driving off Marina Towers, stands the test of time.
39. The Fury (1978)
A true guilty pleasure, as kids with occult powers go to a special Lincoln Park school and fight off a government plot.
38. Cooley High (1975)
A rollicking African American version of American Graffiti, loosely based on the high school, Cooley Vocational, that served the Cabrini-Green projects.
37. My Best Friend’s Wedding (1997)
This romantic comedy, with Julia Roberts pursuing love at a White Sox game and on the North Shore, hits all the bases.
36. Continental Divide (1981)
The Royko­esque reporter John Belushi brushes too close to corruption and bolts town, so only half the movie is set in Chicago, but that includes great shots of the since-demolished Sun-Times newsroom.
35. Candyman (1992)
Just when you thought gentrification was bad: This slasher movie tracks an urban legend through the UIC campus and various local public housing projects.
34. Sixteen Candles (1984)
John Hughes’s first movie about middle-class high-school kids remains one of his best and launched Molly Ringwald to teen stardom.
33. The Untouchables (1987)
Prohibition, gangsters, crimebusters, and the city itself never looked more smashing than in this Brian De Palma epic.
32. When Harry Met Sally (1989)
Their episodic journey begins in Hyde Park, then takes a wrong turn on Lake Shore Drive on the way to romance and NYC.
31. Backdraft (1991)
Dazzling special effects and a small role by Robert De Niro spark the plot about two antagonistic firefighter brothers and a serial arsonist.
30. Mercury Rising (1998)
Dark, shadowy action thriller shows impressive murk and suspense as Bruce Willis protects an autistic kid who can decipher government codes.
29. Only the Lonely (1991)
It’s the best movie ever made by John Candy, who plays a cop forced to choose between his mother and his girlfriend. Plus, great shots of Wrigleyville.
28. While You Were Sleeping (1995) This little sleeper of a romantic comedy enshrined Sandra Bullock, playing a lovelorn CTA fare-taker, as the adorable girl next door.
27. North by Northwest (1959)
Hitchcock’s masterpiece thriller has Cary Grant running for his life, including pivotal scenes at the LaSalle Street Station and the Ambassador East hotel.
26. Nothing in Common (1986)
Garry Marshall’s comedy about an estranged father and son made Tom Hanks a star and showcased Jackie Gleason’s final performance.
25. Soul Food (1997)
This enjoyable portrait of a matriarchal-centered middle-class African American family on the South Side was a long time coming.
24. About Last Night (1986)
Underrated romantic drama based on a David Mamet play has racy bedroom scenes between Demi Moore and Rob Lowe and a star turn by Jim Belushi.
23. Home Alone (1990)
If you can’t laugh at this family classic in which a left-behind kid outsmarts bungling burglars, you need an antidepressant.
22. Ordinary People (1980)
Cosseted life in Lake Forest—representing the American norm of happiness—can’t prevent a tragedy and the subsequent unraveling of a family. This gloomfest, directed by Robert Redford, is the only movie on our list to win a Best Picture Oscar.
21. His New Job (1915)
Made when Chicago was a film capital, before the weather drove the biz to California, the silent short stars Charlie Chaplin as a handyman who is pressed into acting.
 20. Primal Fear (1996)
Someone has killed Chicago’s archbishop: Richard Gere defends Edward Norton, taking his first major movie role, in this suspenseful and, at times, tricky drama.
19. Thief (1981)
The director Michael Mann’s debut film is an atmospheric heist, including scenes at the Green Mill and a first big-screen appearance by Jim Belushi.
18. Road to Perdition (2002)
Visually stunning pictures tell the story of 1930s Chicago gangsters, with bleak weather mirroring the characters’ hearts.
17. Stir of Echoes (1999)
Not even six degrees separate Kevin Bacon from the intense paranormal creepiness in his seemingly normal working-class neighborhood.
16. I Am Trying to Break Your Heart (2002)
Not great storytelling, but the grainy band-at-work documentary follows Wilco through the recording of their pivotal album Yankee Hotel Foxtrot.
15. Public Enemies (2009)
Michael Mann’s expert use of 1930s locations captures the tarnished-gilt spirit of the Depression, while Johnny Depp humanizes Dillinger.
14. The Company (2003)
Brilliantly unexpected direction by Robert Altman makes this ensemble movie about the Joffrey Ballet feel like a documentary.
13. The Fugitive (1993)
One of the top catch-him-if-you-can films, with the falsely accused Harrison Ford being chased all over Chicago—including through Cook County Hospital and a St. Patrick’s Day parade.
12. Dislocation (2005)
Gritty documentary follows three local families during the demolition of their public housing project and their move to a strange new world.
11. The Blues Brothers (1980)
Their kind of town: The homeboy John Belushi, along with Dan Aykroyd, established Chicago as a raucously blues-singing, car-crashing, soul-swinging place.
10. Barbershop (2002)
What we talk about when we talk about life: An ensemble cast offers a window into African American culture via a South Side institution.
9. The Color of Money (1986)
Martin Scorsese casts the city’s West and South Side neighborhoods as supporting characters in a saga about a cagey, aging pool hustler (Paul Newman) and his protégé (Tom Cruise).
8. The Dark Knight (2008)
Holy cityscape! A spectacular last performance by Heath Ledger; plus 34 city locations, including the legendary bar Twin Anchors, are cast as Batman’s Gotham City.
7. Risky Business (1983)
What happens when the Home Alone-type kid grows up to be enterprising teenager Tom Cruise, including a sparky sex scene on the el.
6. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (1986)
John Hughes wrote and directed a classic love letter to Chicago and to the kid in all of us who just wants some time to goof off.
5. Medium Cool (1969)
Melding cinéma vérité and fiction, the director Haskell Wexler captured the explosive mood of the summer of 1968, including footage of the Democratic convention riots.
4. Call Northside 777 (1948)
The first major Hollywood movie shot in Chicago, this film-noirish classic stars James Stewart as a skeptical reporter who ends up establishing the innocence of a wrongly convicted murderer.
3. Mickey One (1965)
French New Wave meets Nelson Algren when Warren Beatty and the director Arthur Penn, pre-Bonnie and Clyde, team up for a paranoid-man-on-the-run tale.
2. Hoop Dreams (1994)
Amazing documentary gives an intimate four-year look at two Chicago inner-city high-school athletes, their dreams, and those who exploit them.
1. High Fidelity (2000)
The British writer Nick Hornby’s novel was re-homed here, where the audiophile John Cusack goes on a quest to understand women. Does the music make this man or keep him from growing up? It’s a rich, textured movie that—like your favorite LP—only gets better with time. It defines Chicago as a city of doers, dreamers, and slackers—a real place for real lives.

#81...Closing Closure


Oftentimes we search for closure in the wrong places, but once in awhile we find it right where we weren’t looking — mostly because it wasn’t the kind we were looking for, it wasn’t the kind we wanted, it wasn’t the kind that would leave us satisfied in a way closure is supposed to leave us satisfied. because it goes against all you’ve ever believed and all the effort you made and it makes you feel like it wasn’t worth it at all. and we always want to feel like at the very least we did all we could to make it worth it, but that’s not always the case and when that happens, regrets add up and you start to feel like nothing will ever make up for every chapter that goes unfinished except maybe keeping the idea in your head of what could have been .. instead of just writing it off as the end even though that’s really what it is but you’ll never want to admit it because there’s still going to be a little part of us that wants to leave some of those doors cracked open for re-openings and comebacks with hope that things might finally change or finally go your way. but most of the time they never do and this is how we come up with the closure we’re never given — by having to give it to ourselves even though that’s the last thing we ever wanted to do because all along, we’ve just been secretly waiting, waiting too long for something that may never come, from someone who’s been long gone, both in distance and in time. there will come a point where we can’t wait anymore. And for that i’m still waiting, because i want nothing more than to write this ending and to finally write him off of my skin, out of my mind and out of my heart.

Sometimes, we create our own closures. This paragraph is so beautiful. I miss writing.

#80... 102 Things Guys Need To Know About Girls :)

1. Do not cheat on a girl. We girls talk, we WILL know, and we WILL find out, and we WILL dump you!

2. Be aware of all your girlfriends’ guy friends, brothers, fathers, or anything. They are protective. Every single male friend we have will kick your ass if you end up hurting her.

3. Never ever miss an opportunity to tell her that she’s beautiful. We girls love that.

4. If she slapped you hard, you probably deserved it.

5. Do not be afraid of holding her. If she’s going out with you in the first place, it’s obvious that she likes you and wants to be in your arms.

6. Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend — a stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts or hoodie’s, and a really pretty piece of jewelry.

7. Make sure she gets home safely as often as you can. If you’re dropping her off, walk her to the door. If you aren’t dropping her off, call to be sure she’s home safely. We think that’s really cute and sweet.

8. If a guy is bothering your girlfriend, it is your right to beat the sh!t out of him.

9. If you’re talking to a female friend of yours, pull your girlfriend closer. It’ll make her feel secure that you love her more than the other girl.

10. Never ever slap her, even if it’s just in a joking way. Even if she swats you first, and says, “Oh, you’re so dumb” or something, never make any gestures back.

11. Go along with her to a chick flick once in a while. She doesn’t care whether you enjoy it or not, it just matters that you went with her.

12. If you’re officially dating, and you’re introducing her to your friends, you’d better damn well introduce her as your girlfriend. Or else.

13. Girls are fragile. Even if you’re play fighting/wrestling, be very gentle. Let her win once in a while.

14. Memorize your girlfriend’s birthday. You forget her birthday and you’re basically screwed for life. Not gonna lie.

15. Don’t drench yourself in the cologne, but smell good.

16. You don’t have to spend a million dollars on the Birthday/Christmas/Valenti

ne gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive, or cost anything but it has to be meaningful.

17. Don’t ever lie to us; we always find out.

18. Don’t say you understand when you don’t. That’s bad.

19. Remember: Girls are pretty, but yours is the Prettiest!

20. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; but doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

21. Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want relationships.

22. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe. Don’t bother trying to convince us otherwise, that is a bad idea

23. It’s good to be sensitive, to a point.

24. If you did something wrong, apologize. Even if you didn’t, do it anyway.

25. You did something bad. I seem cool with it. I’m not. (See directly above.)

26. We are self-conscious by nature; we can’t help it. Let it be.

27. We don’t shave our legs every day so just get over it.

28. Shave your face, no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache looks, we probably hate it. We like you clean shaven.

29. Show off a little, we think it’s cute.

30. You are our boyfriend, our man, our protector, whether you know it or not, you are; act like it.

31. You are cute in raglan-sleeved T-shirts (two-toned baseball undershirts).

32. We love it when you hug us from behind and whisper in our ear.

33. “Fine” is NEVER an appropriate response when I ask you how I look.

34. Most of the time when I fantasize, it’s about you. Don’t obsess over that.

35. I expect you to call me. If you don’t, you go down.

36. I’m more forgiving of you than I really should be. Don’t you dare take advantage of that.

37. When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

38. You look hot in hooded clothing items. Always.

39. You should never tell a girl what to do. Ever.

40. Any decent man will ask a girl out to her face. I mean; if you aren’t man enough to ask us out to our face, who says youre gonna be man enough to be our boyfriend at all.

41. Girls are very impressed when you ask them for advice. Unless its about another girl.

42. I’m unimpressed with a man who doesn’t take the lead.

43. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.

44. You’re sexy when you’re shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, eating a peach, holding a baby.

45. Girls need to hear how you feel about them. Often. Tell her now.

46. A girl wants to be the best thing that ever happened to you—and for you to recognize this and tell her.

47. If she’s not feeling loved, she will start looking….

48. We like it when you tell us what you’re thinking, even if you don’t know yourself. It’s cute.

49. It’s cheating as soon as you’re doing something with her that you wouldn’t want me to see, hear, read…

50. For the record: I’d rather you break up with me than cheat.

51. We can fall in love with you without really knowing you, if you are an @ss, we will find out, and we will get over it. Fast. Don’t ruin it.

52. You like her, make a move. Don’t just sit there, you will fail, and you won’t get her.

53. Baseball players are hot. The sport makes you skinny and your arm muscles… well, it’s hot. We’ll go to all your games even if we hate baseball.

54. When you compliment us, we aren’t sure how to accept the compliment without leading you on or reject the compliment without hurting you. So just bear with us here.

55. WE HATE BEING LED ON! If you think it’s bad being led on by a girl, try being led on by a guy.

56. We like it when guys are willing to have an actual relationship, not just a one-night stand. Most girls don’t like pimps or players, just guys who like ONE girl only.

57. But don’t be obssessive. Major turn-off.

58. Call sometimes, just to say hi, not for a certain reason. When we see your number on caller ID, our heart always skips a beat. Try calling just to say good night, or good morning, its soo adorable!

59. BE HONEST!

60. Don’t ONLY tell us what we want to hear. We HATE that.

61. At sleepovers, if you wonder what we talk about, quit worrying. It really is only you.

62. If you catch us staring, it is most likely because we’re spacing out, not because we really stare at you. Unless we smile when you notice. Then you either look really hot, or we like you.

63. We like it when you hold us when we’re crying. It’s good to feel loved and safe.

64. Don’t go to our friends to talk about us. Come straight to us.

65. Don’t tell us you love us unless you are positive you mean it. If we don’t say it back, it’s just that we really want to mean it when we say it. Don’t say it right away, then it shows lack of commitment.

66. We like our hands to be held and our waists to be touched.

67. We like you to kiss our hand and cheeks and forehead (esp. forehead!!), not just shove your tongue down our throats. We do like to breathe.

68. We like it when you’re tender, but don’t lose your masculinity.

69. Do chivalrous things when we least expect it (ex. holding doors for us).

70. As surprising as it may be, while guys might actually look at personality, the first thing girls look at tends to be looks. We’re not going to see you and think, ‘I wonder what his personality is like!’ Terrible, but true.

71. If we love you, and youre hurt on the basketball court, rolling on the floor in pain; we’re hurting more just watching you.

72. We LOVE it when you get nervous around us. It’s adorable! Don’t think you have to be Mr. Cool Guy all the time.

73. Don’t play hard to get. We’ll get bored and move on.

74. If you don’t call us, then we will spend hours thinking about why you never called, and we will waste a lot of time thinking about it, eventually coming to the conclusion that we don’t like you anymore.

75. We lost interest quickly if you lead us on but never take action.

76. We might seem to flirt a lot, but a girl always thinks about the one guy she really likes right before she falls asleep.

77. When a girl likes a guy, she subconsciously gives him a song that makes her think of him every time she hears it.

78. If guys do the same as girls do in #77, tell her what song reminds you of her.

79. Randomly compliment girls in conversations. If you’re talking about sports, be like “Oh, by the way, that shirt really made your eyes look green today.” It totally throws us off, and we love it.

80. Ask us about how we’re doing once in a while, and at least pretend to be interested.

81. If we’re not talking to you, we secretly want you to talk to us first.

82. Play with our hair without being like a gay hairstylist.

83. We get really happy when you show any sign of interest. Don’t just do it and then never do it again. Bad bad bad…

84. Keep up the conversation on IM and phones and in person! Don’t be awkward. That’s bad.

85. We will always feel bad if we don’t like you back. Not all girls are b!tches, no matter what you may think. We hate to reject you.

86. ok, so some girls are b!tches and they like rejecting boys, but the people who wrote this group are not. better?

87. If we say “Let’s just be friends”, we really mean it. Don’t keep trying to pursue us, and don’t say ok and then ignore us. That’s just mean and horrible.

88. It’s adorable when a best guy friend who a girl has thought about liking confesses he likes her.

89. If you’re single, find the one girl who’s always there on the sidelines at your football game, or at each of your concerts, all your baseball games. She loves you. Her excuse may be that she’s there for her brother, but she’s really there for you.

90. After you find that girl, smile at her once in a while, it’ll mean the world to her.

91. Get to know her, you’ll make her year first of all, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll end up liking her.

92. Not all blondes are b!tches. Some are cool.

93. Not all blondes are sluts. Some have morals.

94. In your mind, give every girl a chance. Each one deserves at least one.

95. Girls fantasize too, its just not always about sex.

96. We girls give you guys code names so that you don’t know that we’re talking about you. :]

97. If you’re jealous, it may suck for you, but we think it’s attractive if you really care that much.

98. If a girl blushes when you talk to her, she either likes you or she’s embarrassed by what you’re saying.

99. Girls don’t really write your name on a piece of paper a million times if they like you, that’s a myth…… sometimes

100. If a girl really likes you, just seeing you will make her day.

101. Even if you aren’t all that cute, and we like you, we think you’re hot. Don’t take advantage of that, take pride in that.

102. Every time you smile at us, it may mean only a little to you, but it means the world to us. Don’t take the little things for granted :)

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

#79...Picture Polaroid


This pass few days,
Honestly its kinda emotional experiences. I guess the transition of getting older -__-"" and without i realized it did effect the playlist in the Mp3. My current obsession of music its from The Fray (acoustic@Live), Yuna, Coldplay, Vertical Horizon, Sheila On 7, John Legend, PeterPan, Jack Jackson, Drake, John Walker...and some other genre but as i realized its funny as I'm not only into the love song, but the emotional song as well especially that touch me that can remind us of past, to present and future. However there one particular song that touch me in few ways and its taken fom Yuna song - Polaroid.. It Had make me think and reminisce on my life in many way.

Especially on this chorus,
I'm calculating what's left inside me
When everything I left were my life and my dreams
And every time you were proud of what you were not
This is the truth and it'll be a history
and this part as well...

I wonder what went wrong, it became like this
when I'm not pretty sure (No, I'm not pretty sure)
After all the crossings we've been through,
it's not suppose to be like this. Why?
And every time you're fucking proud of what you're not
I hate the truth but still it'll be a history

**It trigger me to tell you the story of emotional experience**

The Past
To some maybe its easy to forget or ignoring the pieces that been left for us to go on. My past teach me who i am now, from attitudes, relationships, friendship, famile and etc. In some way i learned in very hard way, and i do Thank All Mighty for that experience - such an eye opener. To the close ones knows me, Thank you for being with me and kept me on the ground. The lost of people make me grow more faster than i expected. From famile to a lover it make me realized that we should cherish them every second that we have, as we all know we can't predict when All Mighty will take this away from us as quote "Ajal, Maut , Jodoh semuanya di Tangan Tuhan". That part make me mature in different level, especially it take me sometime to be in relationship till i meet ma mon petite ami. Another part of past that i realized is friendship, a good fren did mention to me before good fren will stick in any situation nor condition. Back then i did not realized but in certain way i think its true. Ouch! all this came from a sick mind of a moon face. So chill peeps..

The Present
Now, thru work experience i meet many type of people that we can lease expect or can expect. hahaha! Story of life..Many tend to proof something they are not..more to become a hypocrite. Which is sickening to deal with them on daily basis. Especially to this type that always think they are right, Haiyo!!! I have no word to describe this people. From a customer service based, to business development and now in marketing...i learned many thing. Yippie! Knowledge like service area, custom for clearance, currier, to beauty line and now in automotive make me enthusiastic. Taken from ma boss used to describe me, Hahahahhha! especially this moon girl don't have any experience in automotive at all with a open hand they excepted me and guide me thru all the way until now. As for me I'm truly elated! Thank you to you.


Friendship wise, honestly there up and down like a roller coaster ride, with recent heartache experience make me feel numb in that department. Please don't get me wrong as I'm only expressing what i think and feels. Truly unfair experience, but i accept it as we all call it Life experience.
Relationship, I'm happy and Thankful....and hoping many more to come as it will grow us together.
 
The Future

I'm such a freaking day dreamer, The good thing now...all in positive move
**wish and with a lot's of doa i hope it will come true.**









............I will left it blank as it a long way to go.Will update more in the future.


Till then, Cheers...Jiejah.

Monday, May 17, 2010

#78...Suara Tulus

Suara ini lembut menghiburkan
dunia resah rindu diceria;
bisik udara tidak terhuraikan
penuh harapan di sisi doa.

Suara ini tulus mengindahkan
rimba damai segaran bunga;
harum rasa paling mengharukan
memupuk buana berhikmah hemah.

Tulus hati landasan maruah,
khidmat murni bakti mengerti;
tak mungkin terisi hajat semua
begitu kemasnya susun alami.

Suara ini yang bakal dibaja,
menjernih fikir meluhur hati;
akan terimbas ufuk syahdunya
rimba bernyanyi senyuman diri.

#77... Awkward times

Socially Awkward Situation #1:
You’re in class and you want to cough. Some other guy just coughed, now you have to wait.

Socially Awkward Situation #2:
Someone calls in your direction. You raise your hand to wave. It turns out they weren’t calling you. You casually fake a head-scratch. It’s too late; everyone saw.

Socially Awkward Situation #3:
You sit down on a chair and it makes a fart-like noise. You attempt to make the noise several more times so that everyone knows you didn’t really fart.

Socially Awkward Situation #4:
You hold the door open for one person. Now you have to hold it for everyone behind them; if you let go, they’ll think you’re selfish and un-mannered.

Socially Awkward Situation #5:
Talk to your date while eating. Accidentally spit a tiny bit of food onto them.

Socially Awkward Situation #6:
“Excuse me, do you stock ________?”
But they don’t work there.

Socially Awkward Situation #7:
He goes in for a high-five. You go in for props.

Socially Awkward Situation #8:
Walk into the washroom and the stalls are full; pretend you only came here to wash your hands then leave.

Socially Awkward Situation #9:
You check your phone because you have nothing to say to the conversation.

Socially Awkward Situation #10:
Someone comes online; you say “hey”, they go offline.

Socially Awkward Situation #11:
The person in front is walking slightly slower than you are. You walk at an uncomfortable speed to get past them.

Socially Awkward Situation #12:
Someone you vaguely know is walking in front of you. You maintain distance.

Socially Awkward Situation #13:
You say “hi” to someone. It comes out as a whisper.

Socially Awkward Situation #14:
You fart and sneeze at the same time.

**Story of daily life ;D

#76... Cat Vs Dog...

Sunday, May 16, 2010

#75...Yuna - Deeper Conversation



This is one of ma fav song that always play on the Mp3 List and i miss her live show, somewhere in PJ **Sigh, i guess it will be next time...Tonight this song its on repeat mode.

Deeper conversation

Is your favourite colour blue?
Do you always tell the truth?
Do you believe in outerspace?
And im learning you

Is your skin as tanned as mine?
Does your hair flow sideways?
Did someone took a portion of your heart?
And im learning you

And if you dont mind
Can you tell me
All your hopes and fears
and Everything that you believe in
Would you make a difference in the world
I'd love for you to take me to a deeper conversation
Only you can make me

I let my guard down for you
And in time you will too

if you dont mind
Can you tell me
All your hopes and fears
and Everything that you believe in
Would you make a difference in the world
I'd love for you to take me to a deeper conversation
Only you can make me

if you dont mind
Can you tell me
All your hopes and fears
and Everything that you believe in
Would you make a difference in the world
I'd love for you to take me to a deeper conversation
Only you can make me

4x
Deeper Conversation
let me


**♥ u mon petite ami

#74... Double Face!!

As much i really wanted to express ma anger, i realized that its not worth it at all. Today experiences make me realized in many situation we have to maintain or hold few thing to ourselves. Friday was a FU day!!!!!!!
For all this time i had cover they ass, just becaused you don't have the nerve or the confident to talk to the customer put the blame on the moon face! Great.. i elated to scoop all the shite that you guyz did. If you ask me to do something that they had done to me I say, I wont coz i don't wanna be like them. Im better than them and i know who i am.

I sould post this on Friday instead today but Special Thx's to this new lappy that ma company gave! amazingly stupid! The person whom install the software is the right person to be blame i guess. Can't do anything with this lappy except ma blog and tumblr acc. I will make sure i can open it soon. Ketawa jahat tp chomel... ;D

Few keys that make me realized im just a person,
-I have tons of works that i need to settle and i dont have the ample time to finish it!
-I realized i only left friends that i can really rely on.
-I should take the advice that been told to few days ago. Its from ma boss and to him i say thank you!
-I already planned ahead ma work and hoping it runs smoothy as i plan it!
-Hoping by Jun or Julai i can apply leave to go for ma vacation

Crossing finger..and a lot Doa.
Cheers, Jiejah

Thursday, May 13, 2010

#73...Childhood hero

Unlike other girls or guys at my age like this guy, but to me it like my very first love. The first time i seen this movie i kinda make him one of my heroes..;)) so coincidence yesterday me and my mon petite ami manage to get this ticket to watching especially on the night of the premier. This moon face gurl so elated...

So far this one of the best movie for this year, will be one of my favorite. Will i watch it for the second time, Yes! hehheeeee ;-P...
So now i wanna share about this movie review..enjoy!

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Well, they did it again. Academy Award-winner Russel Crowe teamed up once more with director Ridley Scott — a cooperation that gave us Gladiator (2000) — to do Robin Hood, with Crowe in the title role.

This is not the only team-up that Crowe is revisiting. Robin Hood producer Brian Grazer also worked with him on A Beautiful Mind (2001) and American Gangster (2007), while screenwriter Brian Helgeland worked with Crowe previously on L.A. Confidential (1997). All those movies were successful, and Robin Hood seems set to add another notch on Crowe's oversized belt.

The story is set in 13th century England, where Robin and his band of marauders confront corruption in a local village and challenge the crown to alter the balance of power between the king and all of his subjects. Whether outlaw or hero, one man from humble beginnings will become an eternal symbol of freedom for his people. Or so says the synopsis

Robin Hood chronicles the life of an expert archer and soldier, previously interested only in self-preservation, while in service of King Richard I’s army against the French. Upon Richard’s death, Robin travels to Nottingham, a town suffering from the corruption of a despotic sheriff and crippling taxation, where he falls for the spirited widow Lady Marion (played by Cate Blanchett), a woman skeptical of the identity and motivations of this crusader from the forest.

Hoping to earn the hand of Maid Marion and salvage the village, Robin assembles a gang whose lethal mercenary skills are matched only by their appetite for life. With their country weakened from decades of war, embattled from the ineffective rule of the new king and vulnerable to insurgencies from within and threats from afar, Robin and his men heed a call to ever greater adventure. This unlikeliest of heroes and his allies set off to protect their country from slipping into bloody civil war and return glory to England once more.

However, this re-imagining of the English normfolk figure does not show the same grand spectacle as Gladiator, as deep and meaningful as A Beautiful Mind or as dramatic as L.A. Confidential. Robin Hood is not a bad movie.

Far from it, this movie is quite enjoyable. In fact, you can tell from the beginning that this is a different story than a lot of other Robin Hood incarnations, in particular the Kevin Costner vehicle, Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves (1991), Mel Brook's Robin Hood: Men in Tights (1993) as well as various other adaptations.

Usually, the accepted ending to a Robin Hood story is the return of King Richard I, ending all problems with Prince John. As pointed out before, this is actually taken from Sir Walter Scott's novel Ivanhoe, which also features Robin Hood as a supporting character.

In this movie, King Richard I dies in the first 10 minutes, potentially making audiences familiar with other Robin Hood tales curious as to how this version will unfold. This is a master-stroke of storytelling, as it makes the tired story fresh again.

Furthermore, Robin Hood has always been left-leaning in its philosophies and politics. 'Rob the rich to give to the poor' might as well be early beginnings of Socialism or even a well-structured economy which relies on taxes. Robin Hood takes this further and turns it, somewhere in the movie, into a rousing speech against England's tyrannical monarchy under King John. In fact, Crowe could have been reading some sort of democratic proclamation of a sorts, as English warlords rebel against the king's brutal taxation in the midst of a French sneak attack

The best thing about Robin Hood is the acting. Crowe and Blanchett can certainly pull off a great Robin Hood and Maid Marion — the mature version, of course. Both showed why they won Academy Awards before with a simple yet endearing portrayal of budding love amidst older people.


The rest of the cast were also entertaining to watch, especially Oscar Isaac who plays Prince John. His perverted, spoiled, insecure portrayal is very reminiscent of young people promoted into positions of power. The big battle scenes were fairly fun to watch, though it must be said that Prince of Thieves had more impact with the drama as well as the action.

However, Costner's acting in that movie is nowhere near Crowe's silent, deadly figure. If only there were more engaging plot points in Robin Hood, it would have been a better watch. While at first this seems like an attempt to make the story more realistic, that soon falls apart as Marion joins the fight in what can only be described as a last-ditch 'Bollywood-esque' attempt at theatrics.


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Who is Robin Hood

The tales of the daring Robin Hood and his band of Merry Men have been a part of English literature — oral and written — for centuries. The story of a bandit living in the woods who is also an expert archer, has survived and been passed down through generations, morphing as each era added to the evolving canon.


Stretching far back into the medieval period of the 9th century with tales of “Robin the Be-header” and finding literary form with surviving 15th- and 16th-century ballads such as A Gest of Robyn Hode, Robin Hood and the Curtal Friar and Robin and the Monk.

As far as anyone knows, however, there’s no one actual Robin to whom anyone can look to as the single authentic figure. There are suggestions that the surname Robehod was often applied to a man after he became an outlaw, while there is speculation that “Robin Hood” was a moniker applied by thieves

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#72...Period song.

Wake up in the morning w/ blood on my panties

Grab my pads, I’m out the door with them riding my fanny.

Before I leave, brush my teeth, with cramps on my back.

Because when I bleed for the day, I ain’t coming back.

I’m talking about menstrual flows, flows. Stomach always bloats, bloats. Aching from head to toe, toe.

Hips-winding, acting all bitchy, bleeding all over the city, walking like I’m tipsy,

Won’t stop, make it stop

PMS, blowing my mood up.

Tonight, imma bleed,

Til the end of the week.

Oh, ooohwoahoh.

Tiktok on the clock, but the bleeding don’t stop no, ohwoahoh.

#71...Taken frm Afdlin Blog : Lagenda Budak Setan akan datang tak lama lagi!!!

When i read the title me over exited, Shoot to the moon!!
Well this novel is a nostalgia era, Huhuhuh! Ke hulu hilir bawak this book sampai sanggup baca dalam kelas, day dream like nobody's business...

Well, enough said..so this is some info that i wanna share.I was such a big Ahadiat Akashah fan back in high school! Ahhh, Those are the day! ;)))

Hey kengkawan, berita hangat!! join filem 'lagenda budak setan' punya group or watch you tube dengan menaip lagenda budak setan and see the promo and write something how korang rasa pasal film tu or the promo. The top 30 chosen fans who writes about the promo will get premier ticket for 31st may at pavillion mall with the stars of the film. Cubalah dan support filem berdasarkan novel popula Ahadiat Akashah. Mari kita letupkan filem ini di box office.


Power to the people

Afdlin Shauki
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Tuesday, May 11, 2010

#70... I say, I wish & ....


Here are twenty things i give myself premission:
To rest
To laugh
To play
To make mistakes
To say "NO" to demands on my time that are simply draining
To say "YES" to what i want
To fullfill my lifelong dream
To ask for what i want
To be who i am
To try again
To have fun
To design ma own life
To ignore naysayers
To stay focused on what's more important's in life
To be whatever body shape that i like
To be imperfect
To ask for help
To stop caring what other people think's of me
To write lousy first draft
To be able to create


I wish...

It didn't hurt
I didn't care
It didn't matter
I be more happier
I have more money
I am more prettier
I could have more sleep
I have more time to enjoy!
I could enjoy more delicious food
I have more time from you was
I will be more diffrent
l lived some where else


I just wish.........







i wish i can go vacation, with new stylo sunglases,
more better sleep for me, and i want fit tummy to wear skinny cloth .....>___< kinky mode ON! heheee!!!!!!

 I want this hand bag, lorrrrrve burberry (i saw in Purple) Yummy and of course the left handbag make me horny.... >___<


 make me beautiful and make over like on the left ;))

I really want to eat choclate at this time around, office make stress, small issue tend to get bigger, Choc is among an escape, hehheee and i love tulip.





















I love to have another gadget ;-P and the left pump heels its kinda HOT & Yummy!

#69...Words LOVE

She

She yells because she cares; she cries because she’s frustrated.
She randomly smiles because she’s thinking of you, even if you’re already there.
She scrunches her face because she’s about to explode, not because she’s constipated.
She hits you because she wants to touch you.
She stares at you because she’s infatuated.
She calls every half hour because she misses you.
She lectures you because she’s boss, not mom.
She kisses you because she just wants to.
She asks you questions because she’s curious, not to be annoying.
She wants to know where you are to be with you.
She calls just to hear your voice.
She walks beside you to hold your hand.
She sits close to you to lean on your shoulder.
She stands in front of you because she wants a hug.
Just face it boy; she’s in love with you.
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What is love?

In math: A problem.

In history: A war.

In chemistry: A reaction.

In art: A heart.
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#68...ART FOR AN UNBORN CHILD

Naomi Kasumi’s art career grew out of the intense grief of an abortion

BY BOB KEEFER

The Register-Guard
Appeared in print: Thursday, Feb 4, 2010

Naomi Kasumi has long been a friend of obsession.

She arranges the dinner plates in her dishwasher by color. Knives, forks and spoons each go in their own separate baskets. Even though the recycling could all be placed in one bin at her home in Seattle, she sorts paper, plastic, cans and bottles separately.

Her music CDs are arranged alphabetically. Her office files are color coordinated. She loves the television detective show “Monk.”

“Oh, Mr. Monk, I understand him so much!” she says. “It’s funny to see somebody like him in action, but it’s almost a mirror image of me when I reflect on what I am doing. Well, I’d call myself ‘Ms. Monk.’ ”

Kasumi is not only obsessed; she is utterly driven. Before becoming an artist, she was a professional downhill ski racer in Japan and once had dreams of the winter Olympics. She is a certified scuba dive master. She spent years studying music and is accomplished on the electronic keyboard, accordion and drums.

It provoked strong parental disapproval for her to abandon music as a career in favor of skiing, and even more disapproval when she decided to move into art.

“That’s indulgence, not a real job,” her parents told her.

Obsession runs deeper in Kasumi’s life than just arranging dinner plates and CDs. For 12 years now, she has been obsessed with an abortion she had. The resulting grief, amplified by her persevering nature, has grown into a series of art installations and, finally, a successful art career.

One of those installations is on view through Feb. 12 at Maude Kerns Art Center.

The whole thing began with an unexpected pregnancy in 1998.

Kasumi, who had grown up in Japan, was in New York when she discovered she was pregnant. After a period of struggle, she chose to have an abortion as the most responsible course of action.

She didn’t count on the intense grief that followed, grief that was compounded by a breakup with her unfaithful boyfriend.

“I was very suicidal,” says Kasumi, who at age 39 is now an associate professor of art at Seattle University. She got her bachelor’s of fine arts and master’s of fine arts degrees at the University of Oregon. “I was very depressed. I was emotionally stuck. I couldn’t focus. I am so sad every day. I don’t have an appetite. Somehow, I wasn’t there.”

In Japan, she says, abortion is legally acceptable but socially taboo. She didn’t tell her parents of her abortion. (They would learn of it years later by reading a newspaper review of one of her exhibitions.) She could never find the right moment to bring it up.

“I am going to school every day,” she says of that dark period in her life. “I never skipped school. But somehow, I wasn’t there. My body could do something, but my mind wasn’t really there. I’m not sure where I was.”

Her obsessive behavior increased. Repetition became a refuge.

“I would just keep doing thousands and thousands of the same thing, again and again and again,” she says. “And I didn’t feel anything.”

One day, she began typing a poem on a sheet of paper. Just a few lines. She yanked out the paper, crumpled it up and typed the same poem again on a new sheet.

“I did thousands of them. I would take them out from the typewriter and crumple them, make a ball out of the paper and throw it into the room. I would keep doing that every day, every night, the same thing. The same poem. Exactly the same lines.”

He stopped writing me a letter

He stopped calling me

Instead

He started lying to me all the time

He started meeting her at night

He started sleeping with her

She sent me flowers with a note

She said “this is for your unborn child.”

“I realized one day, there are so many paper balls in my apartment. I realized, ‘What am I going to do with all these balls?’ ”

She began to gather them up and then uncrumple them, thousands of individual sheets of paper, piling one sheet onto another.

“And then I made an exhibition out of it,” she says. “That’s when I began to become myself.”

She turned those thousands of typed poems into an art installation at Maude Kerns, carpeting a gallery floor with poems so people could take off their shoes and walk on them. It was one of the first in an ongoing series of memorials to her absent child.

“That was the beginning, really, of installations for me,” she says. “And then I started working those tremendous amounts of numbers, always. I kept doing the same thing again and again and again.”

Another installation, which she worked on in 2004, required her to blow the contents out of 5,000 eggs. She worked at a UO cafeteria, opening eggs by the dozen and blowing the contents into a bowl to be used for baking or for scrambled eggs. Then she would take home the empty shells.

“They started calling me ‘egg lady,’ ” she says. “Every week I did 200 eggs. Dripping out the content is exactly the same thing as doctors do, the abortion clinic doctors do.”

Over the years, Kasumi has made nine memorial exhibitions to her lost baby, each of them an installation grounded in obsessive repetition. She is working on a 10th. She has named the aborted child — she is sure to this day it was a boy — Shion (“SHE-on”), after a Japanese wildflower.

The seventh memorial in the series, titled “MEM: memory.memorial no. 7 scriptorium,” is on exhibit at Maude Kerns through Feb. 12. Today, Kasumi will be in Eugene and give a free talk at the center about the role of ritual in her art. It will be from 7 p.m. until 8:30 p.m.

Like many of her works, going back to those thousands of typed poems, memorial no. 7 is grounded in book arts as well as installation. Consisting of nine vertical hanging banners, it memorializes the progress of her absent child’s growth. “I am imagining my baby is growing with me,” she says. “The scale of my art pieces keeps getting bigger and bigger.”

Kasumi made No. 7 from thousands and thousands of used teabags. “The number is less than the egg project but the process took longer,” she says, “because the collection of teabags takes longer than eggs. You cannot collect 200 teabags in a week. I needed to drink tea, every night. That was my ritual. Every time I drink tea, I always think about the process of making art.”

She took the used teabags, with their infinite variation in color and tone, and dried them, discarding the damp tea, the staples and labels and strings. Then she laminated three teabags together using beeswax to make small pages. Some panels contain music. Kasumi would like to imagine Shion as a musician.

Her work has been exhibited mostly in the Northwest, but she also has shown in Osaka, Japan, and at Brenau University, a small women’s college in Georgia. Not surprisingly, it’s often evoked strong feelings from viewers and even from nonviewers.

When she did her BFA show here in Eugene, she included some official medical documents about the abortion. University officials called her in after the opening and suggested she might black out the names of medical professionals because of the possibility of violence against them.

“I decided to take all the books I had made and start blocking out the names with black tape,” she says. “I block everything, not just the name of the nurse and the doctor. Those books became very powerful.”

In Georgia, a radio reporter who would not see the show attacked her on the air.

“She didn’t even come to the exhibition,” Kasumi says. “I was a little bit upset. If she saw my artwork and saw my artist’s statement maybe she didn’t speak that way.”

Other reviewers have been sympathetic. At one of her exhibitions at the UO, a man saw her sitting in the corner.

“He didn’t say anything,” she says, “except ‘Thank you so much.’ But he come to me with tears. My art suggests it is OK to remember. It is OK to cry. It is OK to share.”

The abortion and her subsequent grief have, in fact, made Kasumi a successful artist.

“(It) really transformed me as an installation artist,” she says. “My art changed dramatically from two-D, flat, to three-D, space, and four-D, time-based art. … I am challenging (myself) now to go beyond five dimensions: psychologically, philosophically and anthropologically.”

It led to her being hired at Seattle University, a Catholic institution, giving her a steady income from making art that would have little or no chance of being sold commercially. It gave her U.S. immigration status as “an alien of extraordinarily ability as an artist,” a ponderous title that makes her laugh.

She is reconciled with her parents, who at last approve of her career.

And she fondly remembers her baby.

“Shion gave up his life for his mother, and he is living inside his mother still to tell his story publicly,” she says. “Maybe I am just a medium. If so, I am content.”

Monday, May 10, 2010

#67... 18 Common Phrases to Avoid in Conversation (Part 1)

**What Not to Say About Someone's Appearance

Don’t say: “You look tired.”
Why: It implies she doesn’t look good.
Instead say: “Is everything OK?” We often blurt the “tired” comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.


Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: “You look fantastic.” And leave it at that. If you’re curious about how she got so svelte, add, “What’s your secret?”


Don’t say: “You look good for your age.”
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great―compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: “You look great.”


Don’t say: “I could never wear that.”
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (“I could never wear that because it’s so ugly.”)
Instead say: “You look so good in skinny jeans.” If you slip, say something like “I could never wear that…because I wasn’t blessed with your long legs.”


From Expert: Clinton Kelly, cohost of the TLC show, What Not to Wear.

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**What Not to Say in the Workplace

Don’t say: “That’s not my job.”
Why: If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say: “I’m not sure that should be my priority right now.” Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities.

Don’t say: “This might sound stupid, but…”
Why: Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say: What’s on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.

Don’t say: “I don’t have time to talk to you.”
Why: It’s plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say: “I’m just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I’m done?” Graciously explain why you can’t talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.


Expert: Suzanne Bates, president and chief executive officer of Bates Communications, an executive-training firm in Wellesley, Massachusetts, and author of Speak Like a CEO

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